If my dream were a woman, would she be into me? Would she find me attractive? Or would I come off as some clingy, cloying loser, desperately trying to get her attention by any means possible?
See, I actually think there is a lot of wisdom to be found in conversations around The Law of Attraction. Dare I mutter those words in the wrong circles.
But I think that most people's relationship with the law of attraction is something like a proposed growing young man's interest in pick-up culture, or something the like. There's a sort of wide-eyed, utilitarian —"oh, maybe this can get me what I want" sort of underside to their curiosity...which may be ironically summarized as a deep interest in something so long as it helps you along in your otherwise shallow pursuits.
But before we continue, don't let me speak ill of the "shallow" by any means. I love and cherish the shallow. Afterall, the surface is the beginning of the deep. It's where we must begin. There is nowhere else from but the surface to begin.
But I mean that many people begin at the surface and never do go any deeper. I wish to go deeper. That's where most of the depth is to be found.
See, spending your time trying to attract someone is a very different thing from spending your time being attractive. Of this we are all aware, even if that wording might have you thinking that you disagree.
It's the same way that something about trying to be nonchalant can actually make you seem very "chalant" to others, despite your best efforts.
And I think it's rather intuitive. There's a kind of coolness that comes about you when you genuinely aren't spending every moment consumed in an endless narrative about how you look and feel to others.
And trying to look like you don't care doesn't produce the same carefreeness that not actually caring does.
Returning to what I said before...if my dream were a woman, would she be into me?
I suppose that's for her to decide. But like anything in life, not only her. Meaning, there's a dance (don't read too far into the obvious reaches of that analogy)
And I need to learn to dance. Learning to dance doesn't mean that you'll have anyone to dance with. But someone looking to dance is almost certainly looking for someone else who knows how.
My dream knows how to dance. And when she comes looking for a partner, I'll be ready.
— David Kennedy